It takes balls to lose weight. You’re on your own. No one wants to see you succeed because it highlights their failure.

A girl friend of mine, who had been more than a little overweight for many years, told me that when she got serious about regaining the figure she’d had before the children, she came under attack from other women.

The first time she went to a party wearing a smaller dress size the spiteful comments started.

“Are you OK? You look a bit thin.”

“Your bust looks smaller.”

“Are you getting enough to eat?”

These were just some of the milder comments.

She felt that they were all designed to make her feel like an outcast; to make her feel that she was no longer “one of them”.

The Sisterhood of The Overweight

Have you noticed how smokers cling together? And football fanatics gather round to swap stories?

Well there’s also a Sisterhood of the Overweight. It is composed of women who can’t be bothered to lose weight and those who have tried, failed and given up.

It’s almost as if they wear a badge that says: “I can’t do it. I like my food too much. And I hate anyone who can.”

You’ll notice them easily at social gatherings, they always have overloaded plates, and at dessert time they’re first up for second helpings.

They cover their sense of failure with jokes and a jovial pretence of not caring. They know they should be doing something about their appearance, it says so in all the magazines, but they don’t have the motivation or the determination.

This feeling that they have failed weighs on them. They don’t like it. So, when someone else parades in front of them that they have succeeded, it makes them feel bad, that makes them get nasty.

Other’s Successes Highlight Our Failures

Bob told me the other day that he really hates Tony.

“Why?” I asked, “What’s he done to you?”

“He’s such a smart-ass now,” Bob grizzled. “Always thinks he knows better than everyone else.”

“I haven’t really noticed much change.” I had to admit.

“Ever since he was made a Director of his company, he’s become a real know-all.”

Ah, that was it, plain, old-fashioned jealousy.

Jealousy is a real part of human nature. Don’t ask me why, it probably served some useful function way back in our evolution. But now it’s nothing but a waste of time and energy.

No, it’s worse than that. Think about it. Jealousy is a totally negative emotion. There’s nothing positive about it at all. People who allow it to consume them are making a statement that they’re negatively programmed.

Words Contain the Secret Code of Personal Programming

Listen closely to the words people use, their language will give you lots of clues about how they think and how they’re programmed.

“I’ve tried to lose weight and I just can’t do it.” Translates to: “I’ve given up.”

“I don’t know how anyone manages it.” Is someone saying: “I’ve decided it’s impossible.”

“It’s easy, I just started eating sensibly and taking a little more exercise and the pounds just fell off.” Is someone telling you: “I tell myself it’s easy, I eat sensibly and take exercise and it works for me.”

Anyone who has studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming (Mind, Language Programming), like I have, will testify that when someone speaks the person who hears what they say more clearly than anyone else is the speaker themself.

Don’t Use Bad Language

Any good hypnotist will tell you that your subconscious, which listens carefully to what you say, does not have the ability to pick up on negative words like “no” or “not”.

So, when you say to yourself: “do not eat that chocolate.” What your subconscious hears is: “eat that chocolate.”

Hypnotists are trained to be very careful about what they say to people when they’re in a state of trance.

Similarly, when you say to someone: “I’m looking forward to the party. I expect the food there will be wonderful. I’ll have to be sure I don’t make a pig of myself.” You are setting up the expectation that you will be sorely tempted. And, even possibly, that you will give in to the temptation and make a pig of yourself.

Taking care about the way you use words is an essential part of losing weight or making any other resolution come true.

Or, as Herbert Spencer put it: “misused words generate misleading thoughts.”

Try This Self Love Test

Q. Do you like yourself and your life enough to want to live a long time?

A. Yes? Then why are you poisoning your body with fat?

Q. Do you like what you see when you look at yourself in the mirror without clothes?

A. Then why are you not eating the healthy foods which will enable you to feel full of energy and lose weight?

Q. Why do you find it so difficult to lose weight?

A. Because you haven’t made up your mind you really, really, honestly and truly want to look the best you possibly can.

Slimming Is Largely In The Mind

Talk to anyone who has succeeded in losing weight and keeping it off and they will tell you: “the only person who can do it is you.”

Yes, you have to follow a good nutrition programme.

And, yes you have to do the right amount of the right exercises.

But the bottom line is that it’s up to you to decide what size you want to be and to actually DO what it takes to get there.

The way Susanne and I keep control of our weight is simple. We have our own Private Weight Loss Success Formula.

We have made healthy food inviting and delicious. We exercise for at least an hour every day. Usually this is a walk. We do self-hypnosis exercises to keep our minds alert to the temptations out there and to keep ourselves focussed on our goals.

That’s it.

Have you made up your mind yet that you dare to be slim? Have you really, really made up your mind? Are you really determined about it?

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